And So Dear Friends, You’ll Just Have To Carry On

LennonPlasticOnoI can remember the first time I heard John Lennon sing his song, “God.”  It came out in 1970 and I was only a little shaver of 10 years old at the time.  One of my friends’ older brothers was listening to it and I remember thinking how “that guy just doesn’t believe in anything.”  But, it sounded like a pretty cool song, so I listened to it.

As I’ve grown up and realized that this was an album of a 30-year old tortured soul trying to deal with “life after the Beatles,” the song took on added significance to me.  Imagine, being defined your whole life by what you did in your mid-20′s.  Like his other three bandmates, they never escape The Beatles references.

The song, “God,” deals with John Lennon’s “rebirth.”  He’s telling the world that all those things that he thought were important in his 20′s, no longer seem to have the same significance.  He enjoyed his time as a Beatle, but he has other things he wants to do with the rest of his life.  His dreams, goals, and aspirations, are different,now.  His days of being the walrus are behind him.

He wants other’s to know that chapter of his life has been written.  It’s time for him to move forward into new challenges and the next stage of his life.  It’s easy to forget that the Beatles members were all in the early 20′s when “Beatlemania” exploded. 

John Lennon is telling his listeners that he wants to make a life with his new wife and soulmate, Yoko Ono.  Like a lot of guys in the 20′s, his male friends have been replaced by his wife.  I saw it in my dad.

When my mom passed on, my father kept himself busy with his business.  When he met, and married, his second wife, the business didn’t hold the same interest and significancejyl it once had.  He had found something that he wanted more.  He decided to get on with his life, sold the business, got a winter home in Florida, and never looked back.  All I can say is it’s a great gig if you can get it.  He earned it.

I’ve always loved the Beatles and their music.  It’s funny though, the thing that sticks out for me about John Lennon is how he could play the guitar, and sing, with gum in his mouth.  That was his true talent!

That’s my story and I’m sticking to it.

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Lyrics to “God” by John Lennon

God is a concept
By which we measure our pain
I’ll say it again, God is a concept
By which we measure our pain

I don’t believe in magic, I don’t believe in I-ching
I don’t believe in Bible, I don’t believe in tarot
I don’t believe in Hitler, I don’t believe in Jesus
I don’t believe in Kennedy, I don’t believe in Buddha

I don’t believe in Mantra, I don’t believe in Gita
I don’t believe in Yoga, I don’t believe in kings
I don’t believe in Elvis, I don’t believe in Zimmerman
I don’t believe in Beatles, I just believe in me
Yoko and me and that’s reality

The dream is over, what can I say?
The dream is over yesterday
I was the dreamweaver but now I’m reborn
I was the walrus but now I’m John

And so dear friends, you’ll just have to carry on
The dream is over


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If You Don’t Like The Picture, Reframe It

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERAI’ve always been a positive person and tried my best to make the best of some bad situations. I will attempt to look at a bad situation and try to put a positive spin on it. No matter how dire the circumstance is, I’m always searching for the underlying message or “silver lining.”

When a person takes an event that should be negative and attempts to find “the good” in it, that is called reframing.

If I’m in a relationship that just ended, rather than ask myself why she didn’t like me enough to stick it out, I just tell myself; “Thank goodness that’s over with! Now I can go out and find a woman who appreciates me.” I try never to lay blame on the other person or myself. The relationship is now history, who really cares who is to blame, anyway?

Back in 2007, my marriage of almost 20 years finally ended. My ex-wife and I are not bitter, vengeful, or vindictive in the least. In fact, we are actually very good friends. When we go see our son in one of his sporting events, we sit and talk with other and ask how everybody is. I hold no grudges or ill feelings towards her. If I need something, I know I can call and ask her. She knows I’ll be there for her, too. So, I may have lost her as a wife, but I still have a great friend and she is an exceptional woman.

Recently, I had another relationship collapse on itself. Looking back with some clarity, I wonder if this was nothing more than a mirage I manufactured to give myself something to occupy my free time. It was my fault but I’m certainly not going to beat myself up over it. It happens. We know each other’s numbers if the feeling ever moves us. I doubt it will, though. Whatever happens, my toes are still tappin’. That’s good enough for me.

Thomas Edison was a master at reframing.light

Thomas Edison worked long and hard to try to invent the commercially succesful lightbulb. After failing almost 10,000 times to perfect this, a reporter asked him how he felt after failing 10,000 times to invent the light bulb, Thomas Edison replied; “I have not failed 10,000 times. I have not failed once. I have succeeded in proving that those 10,000 ways will not work. When I have eliminated the ways that will not work, I will find the way that will work.”

He was right. He did find the way for his most famous invention to work.

Legendary football coach Vince Lombardi was asked by a reporter to comment about his team’s tough lose in a game, he responded by saying; “We didn’t lose the game; we just ran out of time.”

That’s a greatway to view a tough situation. Over the past 20 years, or so, time sure seems like it’s been running out on the Packers’ opponents, frequently.

While writing this post, I found this really neat article on reframing. If you get a chance, you might enjoy reading it.:
5 ways to change the way You Think About Negative live Events.

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Beware of Fast Food Workers Who Don’t Smile

mcdI’ve noticed that customer service at fast food restaurants has greatly deteriorated, lately. I understand that working at a fast food restaurant isn’t exactly white collar, but can’t you just be happy that you even have a job?

At least five mornings a week, I go to a McDonald’s and get my normal sausage McMuffin and iced tea. I go there because they have free wifi there and I always have my laptop with me. Most times, the same old woman waits on me. The first couple of times I just thought that I was missing her greeting or her “thank you” after getting my order. So, this time I was determined to wait until she acknowledged me. Without even ordering, she rang up my purchase, announced my total, and waited for me to pay her. I stood there for an eternity (probably 10 seconds) before I paid her. I didn’t utter a word and she said “two dollars and twelve cents, please.” I couldn’t believe it, I wasn’t even given the courtesy of bad service, I got no service!

My dad is a master at getting fast food workers to laugh and enjoy waiting on him. If he comes in contact with someone that isn’t enjoying his job, he’ll get them to laugh.

If he’s at the counter and getting ready to pay for his purchases, he’ll become worried and look the cashier in the eyes and, with a straight face, say to them; “Do you accept cash?” The cashier is shocked and normally answers with “sure” or “that’s all we take.” My dad will then respond, “Whew, thank you! Because that’s all I’ve got and I’ve got plenty of it.” He never cracks a smile and the clerk normally would smile.

Sometimes, when they announce his total, my father will say; “That’s my life savings. I bet I’m the only one you know that cashes his paycheck on the bus.” That usually gets the clerk to cheer up.

Famous Birthdays - George WashingtonLately, he’ll ask the person behind the counter “if they accept cash with proper identification?” One cashier tried to one-up my dad and asked to see his identification. Straight faced, my dad pointed to George Washington’s picture on the one dollar bill and told the clerk that was my dad “before his last haircut!” The clerk just looked at my father as if he was four cans short of a six pack.

It seems like every time I go somewhere where my dad encounters someone rude or tired, he’ll get a smile out of them.

 

That’s my story and I’m sticking to it.

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